Tuesday, 27 December 2011

You El Perfecto... !!!



Perfect men don’t exist… or so everyone says.
It’s true that people appear perfect when you know them a little, and then once you get closer, their flaws and vices seem enormous and unbearable. So much so that you wonder how and why you’d found that individual “tested and ok” just for you… “Tujhe zameen pe bulaya gaya hai mere liye” types…
It’s happened to me. Being charmed and then disenchanted. It happens to everybody. That’s what makes us human, the ability to feel different things for the same person at different times.
But you…
You are the most wonderful person I’ve ever known. It’s amazing to know you.
I would be lying if I said that you’ve got it all – mindblowing genius, stunning looks, great pedigree, all the success, luxuries and money in the world. But your attractiveness, simplicity, honesty, humour, sensitivity, capability and decency more than make up for what’s not excellent. When you smile, your eyes glistening with mirth like an innocent child, I forget everything that is not right. Your warmth make me lose myself.
I wonder how God made a person as pure and loving as you. It’s unfair. But, I am not complaining! After all, you’re mine…

You sometimes falter in knowing exactly when to say what to who. But you know when I need a hug. Anything I say is a command that you fulfil like a genie without a moment’s doubt or hesitation. I have to occasionally shut you up when you are about to land in a soup, but your voice is the music that rings in my ears and makes me feel divine. No surprise then that I love you. Coz you are you.
Work and pleasure – you make the best of both, and give both your best. Family and friends – you strike the ideal balance. The lengths to which you go to make them comfortable and happy is incredible. Even though it bugs me sometimes, you do not let that affect your loyalty. And that reassures me that you shall never let me down either.
You admire everyone and see the strengths in each individual. You are as positive as you are charming, and you have the most generous and beautiful mind. I see the way you love and need me, and it simultaneously melts and fuels my heart. Your eyes so deep and moist, they scream to me to take you in my arms. Once there, time comes to a standstill…
I don’t have to guard myself from being hurt; hurting me is more torture for you than me myself. Such dedication! What passion! You know what I feel, and what I want, and you effortlessly make me feel special and accepted for who I am, as I am. You infuse joy and warmth in my life, and you have made me more kind and tolerant. While your own priorities could do with some help, you’ve surely given me a few lessons (unknowingly) on how to be a better person.
At work, you are the flawless professional – friendly, helpful, sociable, approachable and focused. People you like walk away feeling loved and appreciated thanks to you. Those that get on your wrong side learn never to do that again.
At home, I am your queen, and you remind me that through your words and actions. You make me feel like a pampered child, a sensible adult, a doting mom, a satisfied lover, a dear friend, crazy celebrity and partner-in-crime. You make me feel loved and protected in a million common and unusual ways. I am lucky to have you, but you keep telling me you can’t believe your luck at having me in your life, to call your own. I believe you. Maybe that’s why we’re meant to be.
I laugh and you look at me with twinkling eyes wishing I’d never stop. You have all the time in the world for me, and I know I mean the world to you. Nothing matters to you more than my happiness and well-being. As men around fake and sweat to please their companions, you exude a natural desire and ability to delight me. And the fact that you’ve convinced me of all this in barely any span of time is abso-flipping-lutely staggering.
You accept my (rare) shortcomings, though you dislike them heartily. Do you really believe that I am too good for you? You keep saying that, and how you are afraid that I’d go away coz you’re not good enough… Oh baby… You are my angel, and I am all yours. I’d be a fool to go away. Don’t you see how much I am in love with you?!!

You bring to my life romance and care, security and importance, and many more elements of a blissful, satisfying relationship. Any need that I have – material, financial, emotional, mental, spiritual, physical and psychological – is perceived by you and attended to, before or as soon as I realise it. You do all that it takes, without being told, voluntarily, unwearyingly, sincerely, properly… coz I mean more to you than anything else.
When I snap at you, will you hold my hand and not lash back? When I cry with fear or failure, will you hug me tight? Will you forever and ever take me to be your one and only, come rain or snow?
Do you yourself have any demands? I've seen you lose control over yourself under the influence of fury and sorrow. I know you experience frustration and helplessness at times. Yet, you do not ask for anything from anyone. You just want to give, give and give. You believe in yourself and in the goodness of others. You’re a sage in a modern disguise, a fulfilled and complete person… Only expecting from yourself coz you are a self-made man, and reprimanding none but yourself for the things that don’t go right.
You’ve got it all. And you don’t even know it…
If you do, you never boast or strut. Okay, now I’m lying ;-) You do, but you are worth it! I've accepted everything about you, just as you have about me... Your ego, your anger, your immaturity and over-reaction... Had these not been there, I'd have thought that you're an angel come down from paradise...
Simple living, high thinking, appreciable dignity and gratitude - just some terms to describe the magnificent person that you are.

They say no one’s perfect.
You are. In every way.
The ways in which you may not be, I shall teach myself to accept you.
Coz you extraordinary. You’re perfect.
Most importantly, you’re mine…
And I thank you with all my heart and soul…
A heart and soul that is just yours to be…
Forever.
Honoured and fortunate,
Yours truly

Wednesday, 30 November 2011

But why...No one knows ... !!

My eyes wander to catch a glimpse of you in the most obvious and unlikeliest of places.


Why? When I myself asked you to never show me your face again?

I gear myself up to see you sitting at my doorstep, waiting for me as I come home after a weary day at work.


Why? When I clearly recall screaming at you to leave me alone?

You’re always on my mind for reasons merry, sad, nostalgic and naughty.


Why? When I tried so hard to erase you from my head and heart?

I was repulsed by your misbehavior; I threatened you to stay away.


Why then do I sometimes still miss you, your companionship and love?

I wanted to forget that you exist, I vowed to block everything that reminded me of you.


Why then does your memory only grow stronger by the day?

Love happens once, now that couldn’t be true…

A million times over, I fell in love with you.

You hurt me, and apologized.

I hated you and forgave.

I admired you and you praised me.

I loved you with everything I had, and you showed me you cared.

Where did it all go?

I sit down and think…

And you know what… it doesn’t hurt anymore.

Time heals us all, and time makes things better.

I can never forget you, but I can now think of you without agony and abhorrence.

There was a person I loved, and he loved me back.

And then, we just didn’t work out…

A zillion feelings and incidents,

Encapsulated in less than twenty words.

Capturing details and experience that wouldn’t be forgotten in two hundred years…

Thank heavens for poor memories and thank the stars for resilience.

And thank love, that can wiggle in and out of your life.

Giving pleasures of a lifetime and desolation for eons.

Yet seeming new and amazing each time it happens…


Saturday, 8 October 2011

The seven deadly sins!!

It's the seventh of September today.


Do you know about the Seven Sins? I'd heard about them, but I wasn't quite sure what they were, or what their significance was. So, you know what I did - I checked them out. On my pet site – Wikipedia.

The Seven Deadly Sins (also known as the Capital Vices or Cardinal Sins) - a classification of the most objectionable vices - used since early Christian times to educate and instruct followers concerning (immoral) fallen man's tendency to sin.

The sins are Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Sloth, Wrath, Envy, and Pride. The acronym SALIGIA captures their first letters in Latin: superbia (pride), avaritia (greed), luxuria (extravagance/lust), invidia (envy), gula (gluttony), ira (wrath), and acedia (sloth).

Dante Alighieri (the famous poet) spoke about the sins in his epic poem The Divine Comedy, and here I shall present to you some info about the same.

Lust – We all know what lechery is… Excessive thoughts or desires of a sexual nature. Of course, Dante's criterion was excessive love of others, which therefore rendered love and devotion to God as secondary. Giving in to lusts can lead to sexual or sociological compulsions and/or transgressions including (but not limited to) sexual addiction, fornication, adultery, rape, perversion, and incest.

Gluttony - The over-indulgence and over-consumption of anything. In the Christian religions, it is considered a sin because of the excessive desire for food, which means it is withheld from the needy. However, depending on the culture, it can be seen as either a vice or a sign of status.

Saint Thomas Aquinas, an immensely influential philosopher and theologian in the tradition of scholasticism (popularly known as Doctor Angelicus / Doctor Communis), went so far as to prepare a list of six ways to commit gluttony:
• Praepropere - eating too soon.
• Laute - eating too expensively.
• Nimis - eating too much.
• Ardenter - eating too eagerly.
• Studiose - eating too daintily.
• Forente - eating wildly.


Greed - also known as avarice/covetousness is a sin of excess just like lust and gluttony. As seen by the Church, greed is applied to materialism, or the acquisition of wealth in particular. Disloyalty, betrayal, bribery, scavenging and hoarding of objects, theft, trickery, or manipulation of authority are all actions that may be inspired by greed.

Sloth – This was believed to be the failure to utilize one's talents and gifts. The modern view goes further, regarding laziness and indifference as the sin at the heart of the matter. Sloth is regarded as a lesser sin as it is more about NOT doing something (omission) than actually doing wrong (commission).

Wrath - Also known as rage; it may be described as inordinate and uncontrolled feelings of hatred and anger. These feelings can manifest as vehement denial of the truth, impatience, the desire to seek revenge by harming self or others. Thus, suicide was deemed as the ultimate, albeit tragic, expression of wrath directed inwardly, a final rejection of God's gifts.

The next sin, Envy is similar to greed, yet different. Envy is aroused when another person has some quality or possession that one would like to have. Those who commit the sin of envy resent that another individual has something they perceive themselves as lacking, and they wish the other person to be deprived of it.

Pride (hubris) is considered the original and most serious of the seven deadly sins, and the ultimate source from which the rest arise. It is the desire to be more important or attractive than others, failing to acknowledge the good work of others, and excessive love of self.

Now this is interesting - The Roman Catholic Church also recognizes Seven Virtues which correspond inversely to each of the seven deadly sins...

Vice Virtue
Lust - Chastity
Gluttony - Temperance
Greed - Charity
Sloth - Diligence
Wrath - Patience
Envy - Kindness
Pride - Humility


Some consider Justice as an eighth virtue... But I guess that's enough info download for the day :-)

By the way, do you remember I told you about how the Pandavas set out to reach Heaven in their mortal bodies and they all (except Yudi) failed? Coincidentally, 3 of the 5 Pandavas failed due to their pride, while Bheema and Draupadi were unsuccessful because they loved something/someone else more than God in their lifetime...

Amazing how the stories, philosophies and mythology connect!



Discover yourself!



Daring diva

Life !!

Its about me, my life and experiences, observations and remarks... Completely insane, yet methodically accurate. Very subjective, yet surprisingly universal. You can love it, you can hate it... But you can't ignore or forget it! :-) I welcome every single reader, and I heartily appreciate your comments and contributions! Your dull, lonely days are over... Coz DARING DIVA is here! Cheers!

What I have learnt so far :)

What I've learnt so far is...
That no matter how much I want something, I will only get it if it's meant/destined for me.

What I've learnt so far is...
That beer, vodka, tequila, whisky, gin, wine and rum cannot replace the high or the necessity of water.

What I've learnt so far is...
That I can spend all my time and money on friends, and yet the first folks to reach me in my need would be my family.

What I've learnt so far is...
No matter how much I try, some people are going to dislike, misunderstand and abandon me.

What I've learnt so far is...
The best things in life may not be free, but nor are they always bought with money.

What I've learnt so far is...
That a baby's smile and a warm hug can pacify the mightiest and the angriest.

What I've learnt so far is...
Education does not teach you everything, but it counts regardless.

What I've learnt so far is...
That people should be given advice, and then set free to make their own choices and mistakes.

What I've learnt so far is...
There can be 100 rules, but there are 101 ways to break them.

What I've learnt so far is...
Close relationships die when individuals stop sharing their true feelings and needs.

What I've learnt so far is...
That grumbling about work is normal, but not smiling when the paycheck arrives is impossible.

What I've learnt so far is...
That there are times when one wants to cry, to be left alone, and they should not be disallowed.

What I've learnt so far is...
Sometimes you (un)willingly say goodbye, and sometimes you never get the chance.

What I've learnt so far is...
When you are sure your smiles are over, there is always one around the corner.
The same applies to tears, hope and strength.

What I've learnt so far is...
That regretting anything is stupid.
Make wise decisions even as you keep your spontaneity intact.

What I've learnt so far is...
My heart will NEVER listen to my head.
Nor will yours... if your heart is genuine :-)

What I've learnt so far is...
No matter how much I learn/write/know, there shall always be more.
The day I know EVERY thing, I shall not be alive to share it with you...

But, I'm here now, and I shall keep ranting about everything I DO know till I can :-D


God Bless
Daring Diva